| We are all taken for granted once in a while. And | | | | members about the great job that you have done for |
| sometimes we don't even mind it, if it is done by | | | | them. After every achievement, tell your bosses what |
| someone whom we love and is really close to us. But | | | | you have done, either verbally or by submitting a |
| if it is a regular thing that keeps on repeating itself, it | | | | report. If you think action and results speaks louder |
| surly hurts and irritates. This world is full of people who | | | | than words, you are mistaken. No one is observing |
| are complaining about been taken for granted by their | | | | performing all that action, and there are many others |
| bosses, colleagues, spouse, friends, brother and sisters | | | | waiting to steal your credit away from you. |
| and even by their own children. They hate it, but never | | | | Don't just help but oblige: It is good to help other people. |
| really are able to change it. | | | | Unfortunately in today's world people take your |
| If observed carefully, one can easily see that these | | | | goodness for guaranteed and start taking advantage |
| people are nice and decent; In fact at times too nice | | | | of it. So, help people but show as if you are doing it as |
| and decent. They are soft spoken, willing to please, | | | | a favour and making an exception. Make them feel |
| helpful, sincere and hardworking. In general other | | | | obliged and indebted to you. People may call you a |
| people like them and even praise them, behind their | | | | snob, but let them. It is much better than been taken |
| back. But they some how never manage to get the | | | | for granted. |
| type of recognition and reward from where it really | | | | Be assertive and stubborn to prove a point: People |
| matters. | | | | who are not able to speak their mind out clearly and |
| A lady, who loves her husband and children, works | | | | forcefully are always taken for guaranteed. Be |
| hard the entire day, takes best care of them, is an | | | | assertive when putting forth your opinion and point of |
| ideal wife and mother in the eyes of entire | | | | view. Listen to others and pretend as if you do not |
| neighborhood never gets so much as a simple thank | | | | understand what they are saying, and keep repeating |
| you from her husband and children. They may say | | | | your point. People may call you stupid but they will take |
| they love her but never really appreciate the effort | | | | you much more seriously. |
| she makes. An employee who is loyal, talented, works | | | | Be aggressive & passionate: By asking you to be |
| hard and at times even pulls the impossible, is lauded | | | | aggressive I am not asking you to fight with people. |
| by some of the colleagues, but does not seem to get | | | | But, set aggressive goals, work aggressively and |
| the promotion. It is someone else who gets the raise | | | | passionately. Aggressive attitude to a certain level |
| and promotion and soon the person in question finds | | | | creates positive energy that other people feel. And this |
| himself or herself working under a person who is | | | | energy helps people to recognize you and your work. |
| nearly half of him or her in qualification, experience and | | | | Develop some nuisance value: It is always not nice to |
| talent, and even whose loyalty is questionable. | | | | be nice. Let people know that you too can get upset |
| Does it seem your story or someone whom you | | | | and can call a spade a spade. Be polite, tactful and |
| know? Isn't it too common? The answer probably will | | | | diplomatic but speak out your mind. Tell people clearly |
| be 'Yes.' Now, you may ask, that why is it that a few | | | | what you feel. They will never take your feelings and |
| get all the recognition and reward, even though they | | | | emotions for granted. |
| do not deserve. But then most others are taken for | | | | Be growing and ready to move on: Obviously |
| granted, in one way or other? Can this be changed? If | | | | everyone will take you for granted if they develop a |
| yes, then how? | | | | feeling that you are stuck with them and you are not |
| It is often not important what we do, but how we do it | | | | going anywhere. So, keep growing. Make continuous |
| that catches people's attention. Here are few of-beat | | | | improvement in yourself. Develop better attitude, work |
| strategies that can make people recognize your | | | | on your self image, and add value to your skills and |
| efforts. They almost always work for me and they will | | | | qualifications. Show the preparedness to move on and |
| do for you as well. | | | | see the people's attitude towards yourself change. |
| Work smart not hard: Do you slog away when others | | | | After word: All this that I told you above may not |
| are enjoying themselves, whether at home or at | | | | come to you very naturally at first. But still make |
| office? Does everyone know that you will do | | | | conscious efforts for sometime till it becomes your |
| everything if they don't do it? You got to change that. | | | | second nature. However, it does not mean that you will |
| Call others and give them responsibilities and deadlines. | | | | employ these strategies indiscriminately. These |
| Keep following up and ask them about progress. | | | | strategies are like medicine and must be used only if |
| Demand explanation for non-compliance. Act bossy if | | | | the symptoms exist. |
| required, and see the difference in just a few days. | | | | Moreover, you need to continuously work on improving |
| People may not like you for this in the beginning but | | | | your self image. People taking you for granted, your |
| they will soon start showing respect and stop taking | | | | lack of assertiveness, being meek, doing all the work |
| you for granted. | | | | by yourself, people not taking you seriously etc. are |
| Promote yourself: How will everyone know how hard | | | | usually manifestation of poor self image. Once you |
| you work and what are your achievements if you | | | | attain a healthy self image, you will no longer need to |
| don't promote yourself. You do not have to hire an | | | | consciously employ any strategies for getting |
| advertising agency, but present your achievements in | | | | recognition, but you will get it automatically. |
| front of those who really matter. Tell your family | | | | |