| When you feel self-conscious it means you are putting | | | | others think. Really strive to grasp why others think |
| too much attention on your self, too much focus on | | | | what they think. |
| what you are doing and how you are doing it. And this | | | | 4. Whenever your focus shifts back to the way you |
| is a formula for poor performance. | | | | are behaving ask yourself questions about the other |
| The secret then to dealing with this problem is to | | | | person so you need to pay attention to him e.g. |
| become other conscious. | | | | - What does he really mean by that? |
| If all you do is shift your focus from self to others you | | | | - How does he manage to be so boring? |
| will communicate better, perform better and become a | | | | - How does she keep people so entranced with her |
| far better listener. | | | | words? |
| Another positive consequence is that other people will | | | | 5. Use your imagination to change your mood and to |
| enjoy spending time with you because it is so obvious | | | | keep your mind too occupied to be self-conscious. |
| you give them your complete attention. | | | | You could for example imagine that the people you |
| Your goal is to become so fascinated by other people | | | | are talking to are wearing no clothes or inappropriate |
| that your focus is on what they say, how they say it | | | | clothes. Why not have some fun, feel good and still |
| and why they say it. | | | | enjoy a good conversation? |
| 6 Tips for Becoming Other Conscious: | | | | You owe it to yourself to find as many ways as |
| 1. Pay attention to the way people breathe, watch | | | | possible to feel good. As I have said before excellent |
| closely and observe the relationship between breathing | | | | communication skills are more dependant on your |
| and speaking. | | | | mental and emotional states than on clever language |
| 2. Listen not just to what people say but the way they | | | | patterns. |
| say it. Pay very close attention to speech patterns, | | | | 6. Use affirmations to condition a new belief about |
| changes in tempo, volume and tone. | | | | your ability to be relaxed and other conscious. |
| 3. Ask thoughtful questions to understand the way | | | | |