How Can You Move the Client From Complexity to Simplicity in Coaching?

"Try to be simple in everything. Drop all complexities- Starts telling his story but as he talks, he forgets
and then many things will follow spontaneously. If youwhere he is coming from,
are simple you cannot lie because a lie can never be- Tells about many things but gives no answer to the
simple; it has to be complicated. The very nature of aquestion,
lie has to be complex. Only truth can be simple." -Osho- Adds irrelevant details to the story,
The dictionary meaning of "simple" is easy to- Keeps repeating himself.
understand, plain without anything extra orIn these cases the coach might interrupt the client
unnecessary.politely, focusing on the need of using the time more
Think of two identical rooms. One is full of furniture andefficiently. Then the coach might:
the other is simple, having just a few objects. If you- Ask the client to summarize the whole story in one
have lost something in these rooms, in which room willsentence.
it take you less time to complete your search and find- Ask the client to group the problems,
what you are looking for?- Ask the client "What is the question whose answer
Imagine that our minds resemble a room. When weyou are looking for?"
chose to talk simple, without anything extra or- Speed up the client by asking "So, what is the
unnecessary, we cleanse our mind. Then, we canconclusion?"
easily find what we are looking for. The solution will be- Ask the client to summarize by saying: "So, what do
easily visible. Simplicity and focus require sacrifice - theyou see here?"
sacrifice of all the other things you could be saying.- Identify the similar patterns in the story and reflect it
Simple is good because it is hard to miss.to the client,
Choosing simplicity in our talk, gives us clarity and it is- Try to identify the real feelings and the needs of the
also time saving.client.
So, when do we create complexity? Mainly in twoImagine that the client is lost and trying to orientate
situations:himself in life. He is trying to find the answers to the
- When we cannot see the solution because of ourquestions "Where am I now? Where do I want to go
thinking habits: Some people are lost in the details andfrom here?" He is looking at the Google maps and his
do not know how to think simple.zoom level is 18 where he sees himself stuck
- When we do not want to see the solution: We avoidbetween the buildings and the streets. He does not
seeing the reality and live in denial out of fear. Weeven know which city he is in.
might be escaping from the reality. Simplicity breaksThe coach's first duty here is to lead the client to
this denial, clears the unnecessary and helps us to seezoom out and help him identify where he is. When the
the things from a different perspective.client zooms out, if he is familiar with the environment,
When we miss the big picture and focus on the detailsthen he can locate himself, which city he is in. If he is
of the problem, we create complexity. As a result, wenot familiar, then keep zooming out till he sees the
get lost. We forget our priorities. We miss to see theplanet as a dot. He is now focused to the big picture.
simple solution.At this time, the client's an-hour-long-story is cut to a
In one of the books of the Adventures of Tintin series,single sentence. Also, since he knows where he is
Captain Haddock finds himself face to face with hisnow, he is at a point to choose where to go from
old enemy Captain Allan. Allan has the Haddock lockedhere.
in a cabin overnight, and leaves him with a question toBelow, you will see different client talks on different
ponder: "Do you sleep with your beard under or overzoom levels. Please read each case, from top to
the cover?" Wrangling over the question leavesbottom.
Captain, as his enemy predicted, unable to sleep. AfterClient Talk Case 1
long hours, he finally falls asleep when he realizes thatZoom Level 3 - (Story phase - Complexity)
it is a summer night and there is no need to use aShe said bla-bla, I said bla-bla. She said bla-bla, I said
cover.bla-bla.
As above, if we miss the big picture, we createZoom Level 2 - (Grouping phase - Clarity)
complexity and find ourselves in a hard-to-solve puzzle.I am angry with her/him.
Captain managed to relieve after he changed hisZoom Level 1 - (Reality phase - Simplicity)
zoom level. He looked at the situation from a higherI am angry with someone.
perspective: "Do I need it?"Client Talk Case 2
There are many times in our lives when we miss toZoom Level 3 - (Story phase - Complexity)
see a simple solution.This happened, that happened, this happened, etc.
Sometimes, people ask us yes-no questions. WeZoom Level 2 - (Grouping phase - Clarity)
make huge explanations and at the end, we evenMany things happened.
forget to give an answer. We develop habits for doingZoom Level 1 - (Reality phase - Simplicity)
something. Then we hardly challenge or question thatI am confused. (or) I am hurt. (or) I am tired.
habit if we can do it in a simpler way.The more you change the zoom level of the client, the
As Albert Einstein said, "Anyone who reallymore he gets out of the story where he is stuck. The
understands his work should be able to explain it to anaim here is to change the zoom level as much as
eight-year-old". The opposite is also true, if the client ispossible so that the client is free from all the prejudice
able to tell "his story" to an eight year old, it means thatcoming from the event or the person in the story. For
he has a clear understanding of what is going on. Theinstance, if the client sees the situation as "I am angry
simpler it is, the more understandable it becomes forwith someone" instead of "I am angry with her", then
the client himself as well.he can take a less prejudiced action.
As Edward de Bono said, "Dealing with complexity isDuring the coaching session, it is not only the client
an inefficient and unnecessary waste of time, attentionwhom you ask a question. When you start asking
and mental energy. There is never any justification foryourself "What is the client telling me?" you start
things being complex when they could be simple".changing your zoom level as well as the client's. This
A coaching session during which we encouragequestion will bring simplicity to the session.
simplicity becomes time efficient. It consumes lessWhen you reach Zoom Level 1, the point of simplicity,
mental energy and brings clarity for both parties. Ityou can ask the client a call-to-action question. This will
helps the coach to create more "Aha!" moments forhelp the client to identify the direction of the next
the client.move. For instance, "What can you do when you are
Creating simplicity for the clientangry with someone?" As a coach, you can even
The client creates complexity when he:create an action plan with the client from this point.