| Are you looking to arrange an appointment with a life | | | | care-free and to have more respect for myself. I |
| coach. There are many people who feel they need a | | | | decided that if I did not want to go somewhere I |
| boost of self-confidence or self-esteem. In this article I | | | | wouldn't, whatever anyone said. This new found |
| write about some of the advice you may receive at | | | | attitude would not be easy to carry off but I was |
| these sessions. | | | | determined to give it a go. |
| I am one of these people who at many times in my life | | | | I was soon to be tested, it was at one of my |
| have felt down and depressed about various issues | | | | friends(Ian)houses. He was trying to organise a night |
| that I have had in my life. I have worked hard and had | | | | out for the following Saturday. I was not at all |
| a lot of advice about how to deal with these problems | | | | interested in going out on that particular night for |
| and am now far more confident and content with life. | | | | various reasons. Eventually Ian asked if I wanted to go |
| I always wanted to be liked by everyone and found it | | | | and I said that I didn't. That answer was not enough for |
| difficult to say no when invited to say a party, even | | | | him and he proceeded to question my reasons for not |
| though in truth I did not want to go. If I did decline an | | | | wanting to go. I felt all of the eyes of the people |
| offer, I would feel guilty and if for example a friend | | | | present descend on me and I felt quite awkward. |
| asked me why I did not want to go and perhaps even | | | | Normally in this situation I would give some excuse but |
| called me boring for not going, I would often end up | | | | instead I asked him why I needed to give a reason and |
| changing my mind. This would be because I did not | | | | why my answer of no was not enough for him. He |
| want to be known as boring by anybody and also | | | | seemed quite shocked at my strong response and |
| because I was quite a weak and fragile person. | | | | moved on to question and nag someone else. |
| From reading life coaching and positive thinking books, I | | | | I felt proud of my success and have continued to |
| realised I had to become a far stronger person, more | | | | adopt a similar attitude since. |