| We all have needs. That seems to be a given. Some | | | | inquiry, curiosity; all important elements in open and |
| are simple, some are not. A few of the frequently | | | | effective communication. The coach's skill is in eliciting |
| expressed needs clients have asked for in a life coach | | | | thoughts, ideas and insights from the client. The client |
| relationship are that the relationship be: collaborative, | | | | becomes aware of places they may be censoring |
| non judgmental, effective, empowering, and spacious | | | | themselves, discounting desires, negating their |
| with clear communication. In my experience as a life | | | | experience and wisdom. The coach listens beyond the |
| coach the needs can be even more straight forward. | | | | words the client says and is sensitive to other qualities |
| At the end of the day many of us want the same | | | | of communications such as tone of voice, energy |
| things. We want to: | | | | expressed, emotions infused into what the client says. |
| *be important, | | | | The client is free to flow with their process with the |
| *to be loved | | | | support of a skillful coach. |
| *to be seen | | | | We all want to belong and feel connected to |
| * to be heard and understood | | | | something or someone. Clients want time and space: |
| *to belong and feel connected | | | | Enough time and enough space to process and |
| *to be personally powerful. | | | | practice their new found tools and skills. Clients want to |
| Sound simple? Let's explore further. | | | | know that their coach is patient and yet will keep them |
| We all want to be important. Clients want collaboration: | | | | on target. The coach and client become a team. |
| The Life Coach/client relationship is one in which both | | | | Accountability to appointments, agreements and action |
| work together toward the intention clarified by the | | | | steps become the game plan and the win is the |
| client. Each has responsibilities, accountability and value | | | | realization that the goal is achieved. |
| the desired outcome. Ideally the coach is guided by the | | | | We all want to feel personally powerful. Clients want |
| client as the client trusts the coach to be skillful in | | | | to be effective: Too often a plan is put in place without |
| drawing their authentic voice forward. Coaches | | | | the support needed to "make the dream come true". |
| support their client to awaken to the gifts they have to | | | | The client is personally, financially, emotionally and |
| give to their world. | | | | intellectually invested in life coaching. Purposeful action |
| We all want to be loved. Clients want non judgment: | | | | that is aligned with heartfelt goals dreams and desires |
| The life coach believes in the client's inherent wisdom. | | | | is naturally powerful because it is honest expression. |
| In this space of non judgment the client is free to | | | | When we risk making changes in how we live our lives |
| explore possibility without holding back. In the absence | | | | we experience our personal power. When we |
| of judgment the client feels inspired, and validated. The | | | | surrender our resistance to our personal power we |
| coach supports a client's strengths and helps the client | | | | are free to give and receive to and from others. We |
| to expand their thought beyond previously limiting | | | | are important, we are loved, we are heard and |
| beliefs. | | | | understood, we are seen and we are connected to |
| We all want to be heard and understood. Clients want | | | | what and whom we care about. |
| clear communication: Deep listening, silence, reflection, | | | | |