Life Coaching Tips - How to Achieve Congruence

Consistency implies similar patterns of behavior. Thein turn create the reality you experience. When you
behavior, and thus the outcome, may be right orhave conflicting intentions, you experience conflicting
wrong, good or bad, helpful or destructive; withthoughts; the result is stress and anxiety.
consistent behavior there is no requirement forMake A Conscious Intention To Change.
introspection or consideration.Every desire to change starts with the intention to do
Congruence on the other hand demands personalso. Setting your intent is very different than just wishing
reflection and thoughtful deliberation. Derived from theor wanting something. Notice the profound difference
Latin verb congruere which means 'to meet' or 'tobetween, "I wish I could change this", and "I intend to
agree', congruence is the point at which your valueschange this."
and beliefs align with your thoughts and actions.Pay Attention To Your Most Dominant Thoughts.
Our work environments are great examples ofThe structure of your thoughts is revealed through
consistent, yet not necessarily congruent, behavior. Weyour internal dialogue. You can dramatically change the
do what we are told and we continue to do the samequality of your life when you develop inner voices that
things over and again without thinking about why. Inserve, support, and are congruent with your true
essence we put ourselves on autopilot. To be trulyintentions. To determine whether your inner thoughts
satisfied however, we should operate from a place ofare supporting you or limiting you, ask yourself: "Would I
congruency; knowing we are being true to ourselves.say the same words to a friend, family member or a
To be congruent, who you are, what you say, andcolleague who needs my support?" If not, then stop
what you do are harmonious and unified.saying them to yourself.
At a deeper level, personal congruency exists whenGet In Touch With Your Body
your true desires (intention), thoughts (attention),The truth is often found in how you feel physically.
feelings, and actions are aligned with your core values.Those knots and butterflies in your stomach, your
Only then can you move toward balance in your lifefeelings of discomfort or unease, your gut feelings;
and experience more joy, fulfillment, and peace.these are all signs of incongruence. When you are
Congruence is about honoring the deeper truth withinunsure of the best path, pay attention to how you feel
you.and what your heart is telling you to do. The answers
When you find your heart and mind pulled in differentyou find inside yourself will be insightful, truthful, and
directions, or when your actions belie your thoughts,liberating.
your body starts to suffer the effects of incongruence.To start yourself on the road to congruence today,
Stress, inner turmoil and disease thrive whenbegin by asking yourself the following questions:o In
congruence is threatened.what areas of my life am I not being congruent?o
To achieve your goals, to move your life in a positiveWhere do I experience stress or inner conflict?o
direction, and to reach personal satisfaction, yourWhen am I not being true to myself?o What is missing
thoughts, feelings, values, and actions should be unified.in my life?o What values am I violating?o What would I
Your thoughts are extremely powerful as they holdlike to have more of in my life?o What do I need to let
the key to realizing your desires. If you let disparitygo of to get them?
enter your mind, your thoughts lose their collectiveYour answers will set your self-discovery in the right
power leaving you disquieted, conflicted, and anxious.direction. It's up to you to make the choice between
Clearly congruence is essential. Achieving it starts withconsistency and congruence. When you are ready to
deep reflection in the following ways:choose congruence, the disparate pieces of your life
Become Mindful Of Your Intentions.will come together in harmony, creating the perfect
Your energy in life is directed by your intentions, whichfoundation for you to develop and flourish.