| Once upon a time, I and a group of seekers, sat at the | | | | upgrades. |
| feet of a wise man. At one point he leaned over and | | | | Sometimes you have skills in one area of life that |
| said in a whisper, "Do you want to know the secret of | | | | would serve well in another, but for some reason, it |
| success without hard work?" All eyes brightened | | | | doesn't occur to you that you translate them. |
| expectantly. Then, after a short pause, he shrugged his | | | | Developing the ability to set boundaries and know |
| shoulders and confessed that as far as he knew, it | | | | when to say yes and when to say no can serve well |
| was still a secret. | | | | in most of life. This and other skills can be developed |
| Perhaps we see too many television shows where | | | | and refined with time. |
| things are solved in twenty odd minutes. Somewhere, | | | | Strategies are the overall plans, and tactics are what |
| somehow, many of us have the mistaken and | | | | you use to achieve the plan. Having plans help you |
| disheartening belief that there are specific answers | | | | respond rather than react to life. |
| and formulas. The truth is that we are often so | | | | Support from the outside can be invaluable when |
| focused on product, or end result we wish for, that we | | | | things seem to be getting out of hand. A coach is a |
| discount the process. And the process is often the | | | | great supporter as s/he will give you feedback, |
| where we discover our answers. | | | | champion and acknowledge you, hold you accountable |
| Life presents constant challenges. You can be | | | | so you can get back up when you fall, and be there to |
| prepared and deal with them more effectively. What | | | | celebrate your successes. |
| helps is using the Four S's coaches work with; life | | | | When you allow yourself to be in the process of life |
| coaches that is. They are structure, skills, strategies, | | | | you gain knowledge, strength, and resources. With |
| and support. | | | | those life becomes easier. When you know you have |
| Having structure means using systems to manage | | | | the tools and resources to deal with life, you're ahead |
| your life. Create processes and procedures that you | | | | of the game. |
| can rely on and be willing to make adjustments and | | | | |