The Importance of Listening & Communicating

Have you ever had the experience of communicatingWhen I found myself alone with my father in law, I
with people with hearing and speaking disabilities? Morewould always try to sign by spelling out words and
commonly known as deaf & mute people. I wouldhoping he could interpret. Amazingly, he could sense
like to tell a little story about listening andwhat I was trying to communicate to him. I usually
communicating using the deaf community as a model.capped off the conversation by writing on a tablet the
It just happened that both of my wife's parents weremessage I wanted to convey.
deaf/mute. They met at the Nebraska School for theA little known aspect of the deaf community is they
Deaf and later married and had six children all of whichlove to group sing. This is usually accomplished by one
can hear. My mother in law passed away before myor two people leading the group in "signing" the lyrics.
marriage to her daughter but my father in law livedThey also maintain a tempo so that everybody stays
near us until his death in a car accident.together. The deaf community loves group singing at
Listening for a deaf mute begins by paying closeall sorts of celebrations including funerals. After each
attention to what is being signed. No ten second soundsong, they wave their hands to indicate their pleasure
bites for him. Paying close attention to what is beingin singing.
communicated was essential for him to know whatWhat we encounter in today's "hearing" world is just
was going on around him. Going to a basketball gamethe opposite of "listening" and "communicating"
at NSD would result in standing inside the gym for aeffectively. We often let our minds wander beginning
time while he scanned the crowd until he found10 seconds after someone begins talking to us. What
someone he recognized and then began "talking" toabout the rapid fire "talking" that is taking place these
him in sign language. Imagine, anybody that cared todays. Is this a result of the "multi-tasking" that seems to
listen in could do so if they could read "sign".be popular?