| 1. Do not believe everything you hear! | | | | you feel lighter and more at peace. |
| With close friends and family it is not unusual to think | | | | Do this regularly to reclaim your independence from |
| that you ought to take onboard everything you hear. | | | | negative people. |
| However do not confuse caring with knowing. | | | | 3. Eliminate your own negative thoughts: |
| Just because someone is concerned for your welfare | | | | Often friends reflect back the negatives you quietly |
| does not mean that their advice or input has value. For | | | | hold inside your own mind. If you were 100 per cent |
| example, I know a lot about peak performance. I do | | | | positive about your life and your plans it would not |
| not know much about car maintenance. | | | | matter if people close to you were negative. |
| If I ever offer you advice on rebuilding a car engine run | | | | In fact their negative comments might even make you |
| as fast as you can! My input would have little or no | | | | laugh because their opinions would seem so absurd to |
| value. | | | | you. |
| Likewise with friends and family. They may be | | | | You can become more positive by reading books that |
| negative about you, your plans and your opinions | | | | expand your knowledge and understanding, spending |
| simply because they lack the knowledge to think | | | | more time with positive, dynamic people and by |
| positively about the situation. Their ignorance causes | | | | stretching yourself daily. |
| them to fear for your welfare. | | | | By stretching I mean challenging yourself to perform |
| Distinguish between caring and the knowledge to offer | | | | better than your previous best. When you make |
| worthwhile input. | | | | stretching to be more part of your life your belief in |
| 2. Let go of needing their approval: | | | | what is possible grows and grows at a furious pace. |
| I often mention this principle because it is so important. | | | | Before long you will not have room for negative |
| As long as you must have the permission, approval | | | | thoughts. |
| and acceptance of your peers you are a victim of | | | | Choose to find a positive in all things and it quickly |
| their limiting beliefs. | | | | becomes a habit that will transform your experience |
| You must let go of wanting approval if you are to | | | | of life. I am always asking myself: |
| ever have peace of mind. | | | | - what is good about this? |
| The easiest way is to learn The Sedona Method. To | | | | - what is great about this? |
| get started right now ask yourself -- could I let go of | | | | - what have I learned from this that makes me |
| wanting John´s approval? Where John is the | | | | stronger? |
| name of the negative person. | | | | Ask yourself the right questions and redirect your mind |
| Notice the feeling response that comes up for you and | | | | back onto the positive. |
| repeat the question for at least twenty minutes until | | | | |