| My favorite phrase is: If you're looking for drama, don't | | | | told that way, yet what if it were told it a different |
| look here. | | | | way? |
| While many of us relate to that, we also tend to spend | | | | Example #2: |
| much time complaining about all the drama that friends | | | | Man, were we lucky today! When our power went |
| or co-workers create. What is really behind the drama, | | | | out, the computers went down too, but somehow |
| though and how are you actually contributing to it? | | | | came back on without any damage! Not much drama |
| As human beings we are naturally drawn to drama, | | | | to add to that story and whoever is listening, doesn't |
| whether it's on reality shows, stories from our own life, | | | | feel like your upset has been dumped on them. In fact, |
| or even better, other peoples' lives. There is nothing | | | | they may even feel relieved. |
| quite like the excitement of hearing a story about | | | | If you've had enough of all the drama, then try these |
| someone else that leaves you with that feeling of: "No | | | | simple techniques to lesson the drama in your life and |
| way!" Yet more important than what you feel when | | | | those around you: |
| you hear it, is what you do with that story once it's told. | | | | 1- Listen to the story like it is just that. A story. |
| Are you upset after hearing an over-dramatized story | | | | 2- Be aware that the story most likely does not affect |
| or doesn't it affect you at all? If you're capable of | | | | anything about you. |
| walking away without it on your back, then good for | | | | 3- Try to help your dramatic friend by focusing on the |
| you, but if you end up sharing it with others, then this | | | | positive. Wow, that sounds like a rough day, but I'm |
| may be why there is so much drama in your life. | | | | glad you are okay. |
| Everyone has a life that can be told as a real-life | | | | 4- Listen carefully, without adding anything to the story. |
| drama. No matter how simple or complicated, if you | | | | 5- Try to change the subject once the main idea of |
| pull each event in your life apart, you could no doubt | | | | the story has been told. |
| write an impressive story about it. But so what? | | | | 6- Take a deep breath when you walk away and be |
| The point is that we all have drama in our life due to | | | | mindful of the fact that you don't need to take it with |
| the constant elements of surprise. It's not our life that | | | | you. |
| creates the drama, though, it is merely our speaking | | | | 7- Remember that the story only lives in your |
| about our life that creates the drama. | | | | speaking, so if you don't speak about it, it has no room |
| Here's example #1: | | | | for growth. |
| What a horrible day at work! Due to the heat, the | | | | In the long run, you will see that perhaps drama has |
| power went out and we almost lost all of our data | | | | always found you, because of how you react to the |
| from our computer system! This story could then lead | | | | drama that comes your way. Once you realize the |
| to all the other things that could have happened. Oh, | | | | drama is simply someone sharing their story, there will |
| the drama! | | | | be less drama in your life. |
| That does sound like a horrible story, at least when | | | | |